Ask Your Partner These Questions Before Getting Married

  • Aug 08, 2024

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Marriage is an important step in one's life, and the decision should not be taken lightly. We all know that love is important, but there's more to it when it comes to having a healthy and successful marriage.

I've compiled a list of topics that every couple should discuss before walking down the aisle. Some might feel a bit difficult to bring up, but they're definitely worth it if you want a healthy, long-lasting marriage.

  • 1. Religion
  • Religion is not only important in deciding how your wedding will be conducted, but it can actually shape your married life. It's very important to understand each other's beliefs. Religion is a backbone of human life and relationships. Different religious beliefs can significantly impact not just the couple but also their children. It is often suggested not to marry someone from a different religion, as conflicting beliefs can affect every aspect of life. Especially for Muslims, marrying someone who follows the same faith can lead to a more harmonious relationship. However, if your partner is willing to convert his/her religion and want to be Muslim, it could be the best decision.
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  • 2. Culture and Language
  • If your partner is from a different country, cultural differences will affect your marriage. Discussing and understanding each other's cultural backgrounds is crucial. Different cultures come with different habits, thoughts, and beliefs, which can lead to misunderstandings. If both partners are open to accepting and compromising on these differences, it can lead to a healthy and balanced relationship.
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  • 3. Money
  • Financial issues can break a couple apart. For instance, personal debt can impact future loans or a mortgage as a couple. You should be aware of each other's financial situations. Love is important for a healthy relationship, but it doesn’t pay the bills. There is a saying, "When poverty comes in at the doorstep, love flies out the window." Discuss your partner's job and earning potential, especially if you plan to live in a country with work restrictions for foreigners. For example, Indonesia has strict rules about foreigners working there, even if they are married to an Indonesian. (You also can Read my Article : https://easytransgroups.com/blog/what-will-happen-if-im-found-illegal-working-in-indonesia)
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  • 4. Past Relationships
  • Bringing up the past might sound counterintuitive before getting married, but it's important to understand past mistakes and establish what lessons were learned from previous relationships. This helps in building a transparent and honest foundation for your marriage.
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  • 5. Friendships
  • Having friends outside of your marriage is important. Discuss how you both feel about friends of the opposite sex. Establish what is acceptable and what is not to avoid future conflicts.
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  • 6. Wedding Budget
  • Will it be a small friends-and-family affair, or a Hollywood-esque production with hundreds of guests? Since you’re both getting married, it’s important that you’re on the same page when it comes to budget.
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  • 7. Conflict Resolution
  • It's important to establish how you handle arguments. Do you or your partner need some time alone to cool down and think things through? Discussing what is acceptable and what is not can help you both handle conflicts better.
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  • 8. Love Language
  • Do you know how your partner likes to express and receive love? And how do you feel loved? Whether it’s through words, physical contact, or actions, understanding each other’s love languages is crucial. Talk about it.
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  • 9. Doubts
  • Feeling anxious about getting married is normal. Discuss any hesitations that you might have. Addressing doubts early on can prevent cold feet on your wedding day.
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  • 10. Where to Live
  • Where will you live as a married couple? In your or his/her country? Will you buy or rent? Discuss your preferences about living arrangements and what is non-negotiable for each of you.
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  • 11. Bad Habits
  • You might have tolerated these in the beginning of the relationship, but going forward, it's important to discuss any bad habits that might have an impact on the marriage.
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  • 12. Family Medical History
  • Your family's medical history is important to know, particularly if you’re thinking about having children. Understanding any hereditary conditions can help in planning your family’s future.
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  • 13. Traveling
  • Some people are more adventurous than others. Discuss your travel preferences and how comfortable you are with your partner traveling for work.
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  • 14. Mental Health
  • How are you both in terms of mental health? Address any issues that need to be taken care of before tying the knot. Serious mental health concerns should be discussed to understand their impact on the relationship.
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  • 15. STDs
  • Did you and your partner get tested? In this day and age, it’s better to do so sooner rather than later.
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  • 16. Family Planning
  • Discuss your views on having children, including how many you want, the timing, and parenting styles. This can prevent future disagreements about family planning.

By addressing these topics, you lay a strong foundation for your marriage, ensuring that both partners are on the same page and ready to face the future together.

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